Carl & Jane
When we were married in 1985 we planned to have at least six children, but just over two years later, after many hospital tests, we were told by the doctor “I’m sorry but due to your low sperm count you are unable to have any children!”
After the initial shock we decided to get on with our lives by spending our time with work, holidays and buying things to try and fill the emptiness of our childless marriage. Then came the self-pity, bitterness and especially anger, mainly towards God. “Why was He doing this to us?” We were good people who loved children, “What have we done to deserve this?” As we started to drift away from each other our marriage began to fall apart. But during this time we also began to seriously ask God questions like “If it’s God’s will for people to get married and have children what about those like us who can’t have any?” “What is your plan and purpose for them?”
We soon began to realise that if we were blaming God then we must have some faith to believe that He exists, and if He exists then He might be able to help us! So we bought a bible and started to read it, after a while we read this verse “Without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him”. (Hebrews 11:6)
We started to believe what the bible says about God was true, but couldn’t understand what Jesus Christ had to do with it! Because we didn’t know any Christians and we didn’t go to church we decided to ring the pastor of a local church to come and explain things to us. He came to see us and explained how Jesus Christ had died for our sins on the cross, was buried and rose from the dead so that we might be forgiven. We thought that we were already Christians because we lived in a Christian country and been baptised as babies.
We knew we weren’t Christians, but we wanted to be, so we prayed with the pastor and told God that we were sinners and asked him to forgive us for our sin and thanked Him for sending His son Jesus to die in our place so that we might be forgiven!
Since that day God has enabled us to adopt a beautiful daughter called Bethany, named after the place where Jesus brought a man called Lazarus back from the dead, and in a similar way God brought our marriage back from the dead! Shortly after adopting our daughter God told us “Although Bethany was not made by you she was made for you!”
Throughout the years God has continually shown us that He wants to be actively involved in every area of our lives, and has provided the church so that individuals and families can find out what He’s really like and share his love and to enable us to enjoy the real reason and purpose for our lives.